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Thank you for caring

jkjones — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 03:53:25 GMT

Judy, It has been so hard since I lost Chuck onf August 4th. Remember he was going through stomach cancer just like your husband. I actually think chuck just starved to death because he could not eat. I hope that your husband is doing better. The last two weeks of my husband's life we had hospice. I do not know what I would have done. chuck needed around the clock care. My son, Trent, was really good to help me. Although he is only 20 years old, he did well. However, right now it is very hard on him. We both miss his dad so much. I am not going back to teaching until August 24th. I hope that I can go back then. He has been gone for two weeks and my stomach still feels like a bowl of jello all the time. He died at home. However, he was in so much pain. The last two weeks of his life were so painful. I am glad that I have you talk too. Beleive me, this is the hardest thing that I have ever had to talk to anybody about. I will keep in touch with you.

Love,

Judy (Chuck's Wife)

latest report on my husband

jkjones — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 04:38:04 GMT

Judy,

I am so sorry that I haven't gotten back to you. My husband lost his battle with stomach cancer on August 4th. The loneliness is awful. I feel so empty. Chuck was in so much pain at the end. He probably did not weigh 80 lbs when he died. He died at home like he wanted to. I have to tell myself that he is out of pain. But I am suffering so much grief. Stomach cancer is really bad because you cannot eat. I tend to believe he died more of starvation. His body just started deterating. It sounds like you husband has been having difficulty eating also. My husband could not take chemo because he was to thin. I know how you feel when you say that you are depressed. I feel like half of me no longer exists. I know that my life will never be the same. I will try to keep in touch with you more. It sounds like we really need to talk to each other. I am on a leave from school for at least another week or so. There is no way that I could go back to work this soon after his death. Please keep me informed about your husband. I know that I will keep in touch more because hopefully it will help talking to someone going through the same thing. Cancer took my husband way to soon. He was 57. We still had our retirement years to do things together. I just feel so lonely. I have been told that it will just take time. Please keep in touch.

Love,

Judy from Tennessee

Hello

RosesareredCancerisblue — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 20:46:00 GMT

Sorry for noy getting back to you. We have been very busy with doctors appointments for the both of us. My husband has to go for tests now . He had diabetes with complication, and inflamation of the liver and pacreas. He goes for an MRI to make sure it is not a tumor. So now we do get to take care of each other. Funny how things seem to go.

I am so sorry on how hard this is for you! I wish you the best and if I could I would give you a hug and let you know you have people in your corner. This is hard for everyone who goes through this kind of illness. It does teach you patients, humility, joy, sadness, love and a host of others. I think you are lucky to be able to take care of your husband , and share this with him and the family. I know I am lucky for this. Each day I understand more about the incredable person I call my husband. All the things he does not only for me but also his Mother who has Dementia. I help him as much as I can, but feel I cant help enough sometimes. But all in all we are a team. Just as you are with your husband and familiy. God Bless.....Pat

How is your husband doing?

jkjones — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 18:45:58 GMT

I haven't kept in touch lately. How is your husband doing? It sounds like he is still fighting. My husband, Chuck, as you know also has stage 4 stomach cancer. He keeps fighting, but is still very weak. As of last week, his legs and feet were swelling. He is just real quiet now and he has lost about 50 pounds. I will keep praying that both of our husbands start having brighter days. It is nice to be able to spend the summer with my husband and not have to worry about my teaching duties. Hang in there!

Love,

Judy from Tennessee