How and when do people usually bring up the topic to a potential lover that they have a colostomy?  I already know the "generic" answer of most people but I need to know what  single, fairly attractive women do and say when they are still out there dating.  It's got to be a turn off for most men and I suppose there are a few that will say "it's no big deal" but in reality, it probably will be to them (and me).

Maybe the reason there are so many views on your questions is that so many people are looking for someone with the same problems, so they can find answers or relate. Maybe they are not responding because they just don't have the answers. I know that I have gone through all the comments and questions with hopes of finding someone with the same problems in hopes of finding answers. May God Bless You and good luck.

AHHHHHHH I think you'd be in for a shock  how understanding  they are. Empty it, put on a ace bandge and get busy lol. sounds like it worries you more my friend , more than your partner. It's all good  good luck :)