HI, am in a similar position. my partner has been diagnosed since September. feels a bit strange to be so helpless, i'm normally able to deal with most crisis, so it's very difficult to be in the 'passenger seat' i would love to have someone to talk to that has something to say, most people mean well but all i get is 'oh poor you', cos they dont really know what else to do or say. if i can be of any help to you then i'm here.